Set Boundaries

I can work and work and work and work but I’ve found that at least for myself, the hours I spend working don’t always directly turn into results.  Often, the later I stay at school or the earlier I wake up, the less effective I become.  It takes me back to those college days when I’d pull all-nighters to finish that final paper or study for that one test.  I question if I had just gone to bed at a decent hour (which back then would have probably been 1 or 2 in the morning anyway) would I have earned the same grade?  Most likely.   Just because you put in more hours, at least after a certain point, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will gain certain results. 

In teaching, your job is never done.  It’s just a reality you have to accept.  There is always one more thing you could try, one more hour you could spend, one more lesson to improve, more copies to be made, more emails to be sent, more phone calls and conversations to have, another parent meeting to schedule, one more fundraiser or field trip to organize, the list is unending.  However, we are ONLY HUMAN!  Our energy, patience, and effectiveness does have a limit (even though we are always trying to push that limit;) )

Even though this is only my fifth year teaching, I have already learned some important lessons the hard way.  Here is  some advice based on my own experience thus far:

1)      Pick 1-2 days a week to leave RIGHT after school (or at least within the first half hour of school ending) 

2)      Decide if you prefer to get all of your work done at work and take nothing home or if you prefer to take most work home and do it in your sweats on your comfy couch.  I’ve heard convincing arguments both ways  but you need to find what works best for you and stick to it.  I have some teacher friends who have kids who prefer to take nothing home, no exceptions.  They want to keep their work separate from home as much as possible so they would rather stay late or come in on weekends instead of having their kids watch them work at home.  This also serves as a mental boundary for them.  There are others who would prefer to spend the least amount of hours on campus as possible and would rather stay up late working at home in a more comfortable setting then sit in their classroom at a desk.  At least home provides an alternative setting and a change of scenery.  I understand both sides and I think each individual needs to figure out what works best for them and their family and/or significant other.

3)      Don’t give out your personal cell phone number to parents or students.

4)      Schedule at least 3 days a week for exercise of your choice.  Decide the days and times you will commit to.  Be protective of them!  Get those endorphins flowing and get out any stress and frustration.  Run while listening to your favorite music, hike or walk with friends or pets, go to yoga, do zumba, ride your bike, lift weights, go for a swim,  watch a work-out  video, whatever you enjoy, just make it a priority.

5)      Set some time-limits for working on weekends or into the night.  If you have to work on the weekend decide a set amount of time to work and stick to it.  Give focused effort for that time frame and then stop and put it away.  It is inevitable that I have to work on weekends.  There is always grading to do, lessons to plan, and assessment reports and IEPs to write, there is just no getting around it because there isn’t enough time built into the school week to finish it, at least not while I’m taking classes too.  So…I have to set boundaries.  Every Friday I prioritize and decide what exactly I HAVE to have FINISHED by MONDAY (I can’t look onto the rest of the week because there is always a would, could, or should…) and estimate how many hours it should take me.  For an assessment report for an Initial IEP or a Triennial IEP I usually give myself 5 hours, for grading maybe 2 hours depending on what it is and how much there is, for lesson planning maybe 3 hours depending… and then I try to stick to it.  I will sit down and keep track of the time.  After the time I allotted myself to finish is up, I have to put it away.  Period.  Whatever I don’t finish, I don’t finish.  Too bad.  Its just not worth it to sacrifice the weekend.  I’ve found that giving up the whole weekend has worse consequences in terms of my mental and physical health than not finishing WHATEVER it is I was working on.  After putting in a reasonable effort I have to stop.  That’s it.  If I expect to give 100% throughout the week,  I just can’t dedicate 250% to work every weekend.